Calling All Fathers!

•June 20, 2007 • Leave a Comment

With this year’s Father’s Day come and gone, one thing stands out.  This year there was much to do about the absence of fathers as a guiding force in the lives of their children… thus contributing to the decline of civilization.

Well, no shit Sherlock!  Any real man knows that a Father is not biological, but influential.  Any Father who is worth a crap, understands that the quality of his relationship with his children will have a direct impact on the future success and happiness of those children.

But we have a problem in America today.  We have a shortage of real men… a shortage of Fathers, and it’s reaching crisis proportions.  You know -… you can’t have your cake and eat it too.  You can’t make changes to the structure of a family without changing the type of children that family produces (good or bad).

So, are we to blame our societal problems on bad Fathers?  I don’t think we should.  I think many of the social problems the country faces today are because of bad parenting (fathers and mothers alike), and the breakdown of the family structure.  But the solution will come from men… real men that is.

I am calling on all Fathers to stand and be real men.  To take charge of their family’s situation and set a course for their future.  I’m calling on all Fathers to be responsible, dilligent and committed to being the best providers possible.  I’m calling on all Fathers to say no to divorce; to stand up and say with conviction, “You are my wife and I love you.  We are in this together no  matter what, and ending this marriage is NOT okay with me!”  And I am calling on all Fathers to set an example for their children of what it means to be a real man… loving, generous and compassionate on the inside, and tough as nails on the outside.

We love to make jokes in this country about how stupid men are… just watch any sitcom for a few minutes to see what I’m talking about.  Well, you can only dope down men for so long before boys start  getting the wrong message and develop an affinity for lower standards.  … I’m not laughing; it’s just not funny anymore.

So, I’m calling all Fathers to demonstrate the courage necessary to forge a new generation of “real” men.

Will you answer the call? … think about it.

 Coach Morse

Time Management…

•May 29, 2007 • Leave a Comment

Just the title alone suggests something that cannot be done.

Schedule management would seem more appropriate.  I can manage my schedule.  That is something I have control over, but alas I cannot control time….

 

I find it very interesting whenever I talk about Time management.  Interesting in an odd… funny sort of way, because I am a procrastinator.  I am… I admit it.  I was going to have an elaborate slide-show for you this post, but I didn’t get around to it….

 

It is true… I cannot offer much in the way of instruction on the latest and greatest techniques to help you get more done in less time…. But it occurred to me that our society has been on that runaway train for quite some time now, so is that really what we’re after?  How to get more done in less time?  ….. well, let’s see… there’s the computer – that speeds things up.

There’s the cell phone – so you can stay in constant contact.

There are planners and organizers of all types – traditional or electronic to help us keep better track of all the things we need to and have promised to do.

We actually have more gadgets today that will help us get more done in less time than ever before!

 

The more “time” I spent contemplating this subject, the more I felt that learning how to be more organized and efficient was Not something readers of this blog were in need of.  So, instead of discussing how to better control or “manage time”, I thought we could discuss the relationship we have with time, how that impacts the decisions we make and, ultimately, our ability to get things done in a way that enhances our overall quality of life.

 

I have heard it said that “Time is the great equalizer.”  Time is the one thing that each of us has the same amount of….. the same amount of time every day.  I don’t get any more than you, and you don’t get any more than me.

… and yet…. Some of us have “Free Time” – “Hey, how’d they get that?  Who’s giving away free time???”

… while others…. Don’t have “any time to themselves” –  “Where did all my time go?  I’ve lost all my time!!!”

 

But, in reality, we each have the same amount of time.  The difference is in how we choose to spend it.  It’s our choices that determine how much we get done in a day, or how much time we have left over, when that day is done.  It’s the quality of those choices that ultimately determines how satisfied we become with our own use of time.

So with that….

             

I’d like to discuss some concepts or strategies that (I feel) lead to making better choices in relation to how you “manage” your time.

 

First – Get Your Priorities Straight.  Most of us complete tasks in the order of importance.  If you’re like me, your list of priorities is subject to change.  Of course, that is just my priority list for day to day tasks.

           

The priorities I’d like you to consider are those that you have made for your life.  That is a different list altogether, and rarely changes, if ever.  But how often do you consider your life’s priorities before agreeing to take on more work?  Before you say, “Sure… I can do that.” How often do you stop and ponder how the decision you are about to make will impact the quality of your life or the realization of your life’s goals?

           

If you answered, “hardly ever or never” then you may want to consider this before saying yes to the next big assignment.  It only requires some thought as to what matters most any why, so you can align your actions with your desire.  It’s what I’ve heard referred to as, “Living your life ‘On Purpose'”.

 

Second – Portion Control.  Red-blooded Americans love an All-U-Can-Eat Buffet!           

I don’t know what your strategy is for attacking a buffet table, but mine is the same strategy I use for choosing what I’m going to do from day to day.  I take my plate, pick out a few things I like, and take small enough portions I can handle.  Then when I’m done eating, I start over with a clean plate.  I’ve seen other people employ the small portion technique with multiple plates…. Haha… you’ve got to have a talent for juggling…. 

My wife, on the other hand, tries to load everything on one plate.  She’s got stuff piled on top of stuff…. Other stuff falling off the edges…. It’s as if she’s worried that if she doesn’t get it all now, there won’t be any left…. And of course, she always struggles to eat it all.

           

I think our relationship to time is kind of like that.  We each get the same sized plate, and our normal tendency is to try and load it up with as much stuff as we can heap on.  What I’ve learned is that it’s easier to take things in smaller portions.  When I do, I don’t have the problem of something getting buried under something else, or other things falling off my plate completely.

           

It’s also important to be honest when we realize that our eyes were too big for our stomach.  You know what to do in that case right?  “Don’t force it or you’ll regret it later.” … and the same goes for taking on more tasks than you can handle.  When you find yourself in this situation, the best thing you can do is be honest with those you’ve promised and ask for help.

 

Third – Take Time Out to Sharpen the Saw.

Have you ever felt like you were working and working and not getting much done?  Or felt like you didn’t have time to stop and plan because you had too much work to do? … I have…   What I’ve learned is that when I take 15 or 30 mins. To plan out my day, I am more productive and can cut through my workload much faster.

 

Fourth and finally – Seek Balance.  As it is in nature, so it is with us.  We need balance – physically, emotionally, intellectually and spiritually.

           

As you fill your schedule, please remember to schedule time for you.  When you are over-tasked, over-worked, over-stressed and out of balance, it throws everything else around you out of balance as well…. Your co-workers, your family, your social and community groups, and anything else you are associated with.  Remember, whether you have “Free Time” or “No Time”, it’s your choice.

           

To ensure that you can strike a healthy balance in your life by getting some “You Time”, there might be times when you’ll have to say “NO”.  For some of you that might not be a problem, but for many it was or is a very difficult thing to say.  Let’s try it now… say it with me, “NO”.

 

See you Can do it!

 

Have a fantastic day!!

Coach Morse

Reflections…

•May 21, 2007 • Leave a Comment

by George J. Morse

 

I sit and think… reflecting on the day.

A long car ride together with my oldest daughter

To see a college soccer game.

A journey taken in-and-of itself.

Just one stretch in the journey of life… of love.

 

I sit and think… reflecting on the night.

A story (Frankenstein) read together with my youngest daughter.

She picked it out.

Three chapters done; nineteen more to go before were through.

Just the beginning of a new chapter in the book of life… of caring.

 

A movie (Skins) watched together with my wife,

One we havent seen.  I picked it out.

From the first scene to the last, until it was done,

And we didnt even fall asleep this time.

Just another scene played out in this movie of life… of togetherness.

 

Up the stairs and find my son asleep on the floor,

The hockey game over.  Off to bed with him,

And tomorrow he can find out if his beloved Red Wings

Won the game.

Just another break between periods in the game of life… of learning.

In Times Like These

•May 18, 2007 • Leave a Comment

by George J. Morse

In times like these

We are tested. Pushed to the limits of what is possible,

And beyond;

Desperate to see the future, as the present

Blocks our view.

 

In times like these

We are tested. Pressed to find the answers in a never-

ending

Sea of questions;

Fighting to keep our backs off the wall, just as life would

Have us against it.

 

In times like these

We are arrested. Failing to elude the freezing

Winds of fear;

Bound in chains, as prisoners of our own

Self-doubt.

 

In times like these

We are bested. More inclined to blame than

Find solutions;

More inclined to give up, and

Make excuses.

 

In times like these

We are tested.

Make or break,

Win or Lose,

Pass or Fail.

 

Boundaries

•May 16, 2007 • Leave a Comment

Children need their space and the chance to grow and learn from their mistakes, but that doesn’t mean let them roam free.  In order to be effective, giving children the best opportunity to suceed, parents need to establish boundaries.

Turning a child loose without direction or guidance will spell disaster for the child… it’s a set up for failure.  Just look at some of the kids (and adults) on myspace, and you’ll see exactly what I’m talking about.  Forbidding a child’s participation on myspace is also a hindrance to that child’s development.

I think it’s important to be involved in things your children are interested in.  You don’t have to like it, but if you want your child to be more successful, you need to expose them to the real world and participate in it with them.  You have a real opportunity to demonstrate how a person can participate on myspace, for example, and use self discipline to adhere to core values that matter… core values that are not imposed on your child, but shared in common with him / her.

Have a fantastic day!!

Coach Morse

The Tipping Point

•May 14, 2007 • 2 Comments

Somtimes it feels like no matter what I do, no matter how hard I try, I’m just not making any progress!  It’s during these times that I need to remind myself that every goal or project has a tipping point, and I just need to keep pushing until I reach it.

Success is cumulative.  It doesn’t matter if you’re talking about business, finances, relationships, or trying to figure out this confounded computer… Every positive action brings you closer to a point when night turns into day, when the momentum, built by hours or weeks or months or years of hard work, takes on a life of it’s own and propells you beyond your wildest dreams!

It would be a shame to give up just before you’ve reached your own tipping point.

So keep pushing!

Coach Morse